A Healthy Marriage Relies on Gods Indisputable Truths
Author: Angie Lewis
Article source: http://www.northcarolinafestivals.com/. Used with author's permission.
A healthy marriage always relies on the foundation of honesty, trust, honor, respect and commitment. These undisputable truths are found in the bible. What is undisputable truths? God designed marriage to be indissoluble. The only disclaimer for marriage is if there is physical violence and any kind of abuse to a spouse. The latter is debatable, but God's indisputable truths is not. In other words, these are not my opinions or beliefs, but God's.
Should adultery be included in the disclaimer for divorce? I don't think so. What is adultery? It is a spiritual imbalance of one or both spouses unable to commit themselves to one another. The root of major issues in marriage originate from an unhealthy spiritual psyche. If you want to be justified in your adulterous affairs go to a shrink. If you want to discontinue your weakness, seek Jesus Christ. Just because the world is a supporter of divorce doesn't justify it in the eyes of God.
God wants us to support the marriage pledge by His foundations of indisputable truths. He wants us to honor and respect our spouse for who they are, faults and all. A healthy psyche will enable couples to do that, while a spiritually bankrupt one will not. Commitment is a word that means so much to God, but yet so little to couples in their marriage. If couples were committed to their marriage they would be looking for reasons to stay together instead of reason to leave each other!
Stop looking at the grass on the other side of the fence. If you keep looking over there, soon you will see the brown spots where the dog has urinated.
Love doesn't even factor into any of this. People use the word "love" loosely. "I love you." What does that mean? Show me you love me and I will believe you. Give to me without wanting anything in return. Die for me if you have to. Don't say, "I love you", show me that you love me!
The truth most couples perceive to be correct for their marriage comes from self. The self guided tour for marriage believes in divorce, infidelity, addiction, resentment, hate, lust, bitterness of heart and immorality, etc. If we believe these truths long enough, what happens? We become dead to the indisputable truths that come from God. We remain in bondage to the sinful nature of self.
The sinful nature believes the only way out of an unhappy marriage is divorce. And isn't it ironic how society has made it so justifiable to divorce our spouse over such pettiness. The spiritually bankrupt psyche expects happiness and contentment at all costs, and will go after it with gusto through the only understanding they know; foundation of self.
Ironically, the sinful nature even acknowledges the existence of God, but doesn't have faith enough to pursue the indisputable truths for marital happiness and contentment. All of this error in thinking can be eliminated from the psyche. The way we think, what we believe, and what we allow into our heart and mind undeniably comes back out in the way we live, and how we direct our marriage. We live what we think. In retrospect, what we generate into our heart comes out in our actions.
Because most couples do not know any better, they end up playing god in their marriage, and in so doing, do those things which come from the selfish arena, which are in contradiction to God's undisputable truths. For an example, if I play god, I will direct the marriage under my own understanding of what I want and what I feel. The selfish aspect of my nature tells me to do what I want, and to do what will make me happy, not considering the feelings of my spouse.
Culture of society plays itself out with this kind of error in thinking. People are like chameleons, individuality is lost, and becomes one in its beliefs. They acknowledge God exists, but can't seem to accept the Godly truths for themselves. This self-inflicted culture is formed through the lack of spirituality, which then flourishes on rebelliousness and denial to the indisputable truths. Even though, the indisputable truths are right under their nose!
"In whom the God of this world hath blinded the minds of them which believe not, lest the light of the glorious gospel of Christ, who is the image of God, should shine unto them." II Corinthians 4:4 KJV
The bottom line. The word of God is open and revealed to everyone, except for those who refuse to believe. Satan "is the god of this age" His work is to deceive, and he has blinded those who don't believe in Jesus Christ.
To often, the allure of those selfish aspects of nature supersede the spiritual side of us, and money, power and pleasure blinds people to the light of Christ's word. Those who have rejected Christ and prefer their own pursuits have unknowingly made satan their god.
"For such are false apostles, deceitful workers, transforming themselves into the apostles of Christ. And no marvel; for satan himself is transformed into an angel of light." II Corinthians 11:13-14 KJV
Satan and his servants deceive many people by appearing to be attractive, good, and moral. Many unsuspecting marriages follow these smooth talking, bible quoting leaders and are lead into the practice of immorality, lust and deceit. Such as the practice of divorce, homosexuality, infidelity, and other immoral acts have became a thing of this new culture in the world.
The biggest and greatest truth is God's indisputable truths never change. They always stay the same even when cultures around the world change to conform to immorality of the day, God's words and precepts stay the same!!!
God intends marriage to be a lifetime commitment. That being the case, those entering into marriage, should never consider divorce an option for solving problems or a way out of a relationship that seems dead.
..."that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, "For this cause shall a man leave father and mother and shall cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore what God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Mathew 19: 3-6 KJV Angie Lewis copyright 2005
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